Beware of the Quiet Ones...

I wrote a post a couple of weeks ago called Some See Straight in Me a few weeks ago and there has been an interesting twist to the story.

I have mentioned in my blog entries a few times that women are, to put it mildly, fucking mental and further proof of that assumption was shown yesterday.  Now the lady in the story is a bit of a sad lady.  She has a very controlling husband, she is bullied at work and was no doubt bullied throughout her entire school-life.  She has very little, if any personality and is quite clearly pretty envious of any woman who has more freedom than her and more personality than her.  They often say you need to be careful of the quiet ones ....

My wife, on the other hand, is pretty loud and outgoing.  Much of the time when we were together as couples my wife (who has quite a dominant personality) would have lots of ping-pong jokey arguments with her husband.  He clearly isn't used to a woman who will answer him back and has independent thoughts of her own.  Their behaviour was sometimes a little flirtatious together - although (at least on my wife's part) was innocent.

Yesterday, to cut a long story short, she basically accused my wife of having an affair with her husband!  Yes, the same woman who told me she was in love with me and wanted to have an affair with me!!!  Obviously, my wife was really pissed-off by this accusation (and from experience - it's never a good idea to piss my wife off).  My wife knows nothing of the emails that this woman sent to me.  She and my wife had a "discussion" (this woman void of personality stands no chance against my wife in an argument).  I do think my wife was perhaps a little flirtatious - but that is her personality.  I don't think that anything went on between them.  The woman's husband, although very intelligent, is (in my opinion) a bit of a dickhead and I don't know how honourable his intentions were towards my wife.

Obviously, my wife phoned him and told him and now he's embarrassed from us and furious with his wife.  I have a feeling that she isn't going to get away with this easily.  This is apparently not the first time his wife has accused someone of having an affair with him (this is the 3rd or 4th time).  Often the quiet ones need to be watched!

It's a horrible situation to be in.  A couple we've known for hardly 1½ years has put me separately, my wife and us as a couple in situations we have no desire to be part of.  They seemed, when we first met them, as a relatively normal couple.  We had no idea what kind of deranged psychos they both are.  My wife and I have both agreed to distance ourselves as much as possible from them.  This is complicated by the fact that both our daughters are best, best friends.

I told my wife that her behaviour must be adapted according to the situation and the people she is with.  My wife can be loud, funny and flirty.  She often tells me "that's who I am" but I tried to explain to her that it's cool for her to behave "as she is" but she must understand that not everybody appreciates that kind of behaviour and what is perceived by one person as funny or flirty can be perceived by others as something else.

I hate these situations because of the discomfort everyone feels.  It will be interesting to see how this turns out.  She may be quiet - but she manages to cause a lot of noise around her!